The
other night as The Boy and I were laying in bed cue sexy music, he
turned to look at me as if to say „I love you more than anything
else and I promise to do all the dishes in our new apartment“ and
yet what he actually said went something like this: If being
transgender is socially acceptable, why isn't being transracial
accepted? Because it's the same thing if gender and race are constructs.
I can only assume that
this sentence was either due to a spontaneous and quickly-remified
speech impediment and that he will actually be in charge of dish
washing in our new place, or a sly torture attempt to ruin any
chances I had at getting a good night's sleep. I'm going to assume
the former – but it has played on my mind since then and so I will
answer his question as best I can.
Because white people.
Done.
Ok maybe that wasn't a
complete answer– but that is what it comes down to. Now I know some
people are going to get up in arms over this and just trust me, I
will explain myself – just let me get to that.
First
up: Transracial has traditionally been used to describe children
whose race doesn't align with that of their adoptive parents.
Dictionary.com however– which is to the Oxford or Cambridge
dictionary as WebMD is to a doctor – defines it as
„involving or between two or more racial groups.“
So, depending how strictly we view race and how far you are willing
to look back: Almost everyone could count themselves as transracial
by that definition.
However,
that didn't answer our question. In order to explain why transgender
and transracial are not the same thing to The Boy, I used basic
feminist (oooh the F word!) theory, as did he: Gender and race are
constructs. What he forgot to add is that a construct needs a central
point, something to compare everything to. For gender – men are
this central point and women, transgender people and people who don't
identify with any particular gender are therefore
'the others.' For race, white people make up this central point,
meaning anyone that is less than white cannot be considered white.
Enough theory for today!
So let's put this into
perspective with some examples from both sides of the argument:
- Children born to parents of two different racial backgrounds will never be considered white even if one of their parents is and they identify as such. Obama is an excellent example of this. He was raised by his two white grandparents and white mother and had little contact to his Kenyan father – and yet his main claim to fame in years to come will probably be as the first black president.
- On the other hand, many children of native people all throughout the world were stolen from their homes during the 19th and 20th centuries in order to re-educate and raise them in an anglicized environment – in other words – to make them white. But this didn't actually make them white, these children would not grow up to be recognised by society as white, even if they personally saw themselves that way.
- Michael Jackson: Vitiligo (a disease which causes skin depigmentation) and dangerous amount of surgery or not, Michael Jackson was never considered white, even when he was so pale he made my foundation look like bronzer.
And yet Rachel Dolezal
(Google her) only had to get a fake tan and a perm to be accepted as
black, which comes back to my point about white people.
Transracialism as The Boy believes to exist, is a one-way street.
White people can choose to identify with their immigrant forefathers
at any time and yet maintain their privileges (Ooh the P word!) but
people of any other skin colour or race cannot gain white privileges
even if they identify as white. What Rachel Dolezal did is not being
transracial. It is being racially manipulative and using her
privilege to deceive people. She didn't grow up being black and share
their experiences, she could (have) wipe(d) off the fake tan at any
moment and go(ne) back to her life as a white American woman and yet
she chose to be black, or possibly she truly felt black, but the
point is that whilst the privilege of choosing a race was afforded to
her as a white person, it is not afforded to people of other races.
Transgender is aligning
your gender identity (rather than your assigned gender) with your outer
appearance and behaviour among other things. Options for
transitioning vary according to country and culture but in countries
currently more accepting of transgender people we see people from
diverse racial backgrounds transitioning. It is a two-way street, not
a fair street admittedly, one side definitely has a lot more traffic
lights and road blocks – but at least there are two lanes.
Transracialism
doesn't offer that, if race is measured by a group's differentiation
from the central point then everything is measured by whiteness.
White people are therefore the default that get to choose where 'the
others' land on their manufactured scale. When white people have this
privileged position of choosing who goes where, they can also choose
where they want to go - but when the others don't get the same
opportunity (which they don't), then it is not this utopian idea of
transracialism where you go to a build-a-race workshop and pick out
what works best for you as an individual being compared to
transgenderism, but rather white people identifying as whatever they
want, no matter how tenuous the link (I'm looking at you 14th
generation American Irish people!) and yet forcing their own racial
views and identities onto 'the others' and this cannot be compared to
the transgender movement.
Like I said, white
people.
Hope all is well.